YOU create your own problems. YOU create your own suffering.
There. I said it. Yes. I just said it. Just like that. ”What? Wait! No, I don’t! Bad things happen to me all the time!” Did that thought pass through your head when you read the above? Then this blog post is for you, my friend. Keep reading and let the philosophy of ”No worries” change your life.
”Suffering is optional” - Byron Katie.
Read that again. Suffering is optional. This statement floored me the first time I read her book ”Loving what is”. It hit me hard. ”What do you mean?” -I kept thinking. ”Have I been choosing my own suffering all this time? No. That can’t be right. I don’t want to suffer. How can it then be my own choice? This doesn’t make any sense!”. It took me months to shake off the feeling that my world was upside down. It felt like I had been awakened but I wasn’t sure to what. It didn’t make any sense to me back then.
She was right all along.
The thing is, it does make so much sense now. It simply took me a long time to see it. I had been choosing the suffering for so long that I wasn’t even aware of it. I was so caught up in my own thinking, and believing the stories in my head, that I didn’t see the truth. I didn’t see reality for what it was.
When you realize that your own suffering, your own thinking, is a gift pointing you toward your own freedom, then life becomes easy. Life becomes fun. Life is lived fully. You show up. You step up your game. You become fearless and the most important thing of all, you stop giving a d*** about what everyone thinks about you.
Let me quote Byron Katie again here.
”You see who you are by seeing who you think other people are. Eventually, you come to see that everything outside you is a reflection of your own thinking. You are the storyteller, the projector of all stories, and the world is the projected image of your thoughts”.
Now let me walk you through this because I know it takes understanding to grasp it fully.
You see who you are, by seeing who you think other people are.
Meaning everything you think about others, the good, the bad, the ugly, is simply a reflection of yourself. You see in others what you see in yourself. You project onto others whatever you’re thinking and feeling.
The same goes for situations. You project your own thinking, and suffering, onto every situation you find yourself in.
Whatever you tell yourself, is what will be. Whenever I find myself in a situation that I don’t want to be in, I remind myself that I’m choosing this situation and ”Whatever I tell myself” is what will be.
Let’s bring this into food and your body.
Do you find yourself struggling with food, with hunger, with your body image, with the scale? If your answer is yes, then I want you to see that whatever story you’re telling yourself around it, is your own thinking, your brain's thinking, projecting all kinds of thoughts onto what it means.
Try saying ”whatever I tell myself” every time you notice you’re struggling, worrying or suffering in any way. Can you see the situation differently? Who would you be without these thoughts? What if life can be easy instead? What if life can be worry-free? ”Hakuna Matata” the crap out of every situation. Seriously.
Byron Katie simply tells it like it is. If you put your hand in a fire, you suffer, she says. It hurts. Instantly you move away from the pain, you pull your hand away. The suffering stops. End of story. So what is she actually saying here?
Well, what she is saying is this.
Move away from the thought.
Pull back from your thinking. Step back from the realm of thoughts, of thinking, and of struggling. Move away from thought, and the suffering ends. Just like that.
When you see that you were caught up in thought, you come to see that by being in ”thinking mode” you’ll suffer and be in pain. Simply step back, away from it, and you’ll find something else. You’ll find what you’ve been looking for all this time.
You’ll find the end of suffering. And joy, so much joy. You’ll find freedom. And you’ll never be the same again.
Hakuna Matata, guys.
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